2011.02.02
Critical success factors for sexual life covenant {marriage}
by
James Robertson
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In 2001 Yah took me through an exercise to understand the critical success factors for life and sexual life covenant {marriage}.
This resulted in about 100 pages of critical issues strategic analysis which is summarized here in terms of the Critical Success Factors for a sexual life covenant between a man and woman. This is reviewed in more detail in the attachment. The detailed analysis will be emailed as a compressed file of Adobe pdf documents separately.
The associated weights documented at that time are at the end of each heading -- relative importance ratings are for the man and also for the woman when the union is mature, relative importance for wife in the adjustment and building stage of marriage are in brackets.
These are the things you need to do in order to have a successful life covenant between a man and a woman {marriage}:
1. The Almighty first -- 80% (40%)
The Almighty [Yah] must be first in the family.
This should be 80% of the focus of the life of the family through the man – this does NOT relate to hours spent, it relates to whether the man is conducting life with his primary focus being serving our Daddy in Heaven or whether he is serving the cares of this world.
And whether the woman is aligned with her man and accordingly also serving the Almighty.
The rating for the woman during the early stages of the union is more on serving her man and becoming strongly one with him and building a sure house.
Once the union is established the woman should also have a high level of focus on Yah (the Almighty) but always serves Yah with and through her man. This is necessary for him to love her as Yahoohua loves the body of believers and for her to submit to him in everything.
2. The Almighty leads -- 10% (5%)
In all things seek the leading of the Almighty, through prayer, asking for guidance, seeking signs, etc.
3. Marriage covenant - sexual relationship -- 4% (20%)
As previously mentioned, sexual love making is the most set apart {sacred} think in this thing we call marriage and therefore the most important.
It is a celebration of the covenant act between the man and the woman and should be entered into regularly.
The woman is responsible for initiating love making, NOT the man.
A strong one-flesh bond is prerequisite for a successful and sustainable union and a prosperous house.
Yah gave us the union between man and woman in order for us to understand the union we are intended to have with Him through His Spirit in us.
4. Man leads and gives direction; love like Yahooshua -- 3% (22%)
The man must lead and give direction, provide the covering, teach, etc.
He must love his woman as Yahooshua loved the body of believers and gave his life for them, so the man must be willing to give his life for his woman both spiritually and physically.
5. Woman in harmony submits in everything -- 1.5% (6%)
As discussed in the article "Buddy can you spare a dime", the woman is required to seek harmony or symphony with her man and submit in everything, as Yahooshua submitted to those who unjustly beat him and executed him.
This is NOT Yah being unreasonable, it is about us learning to relate - in ways that have largely been lost and forgotten.
6. Set-apartness (sanctification) -- 1% (2%)
Holiness or set-apartness, drawing close to Yah, cutting off ties with sin, the ways of the world, etc.
7. The rest -- finances, appearance, house, cars, running of the home, ministry, business, etc – 0.5% (5%)
Originally I was told that this item has zero percentage but I have found that in practice, owing to the extremely corrupt state of human beings today it is necessary to allocate 0.5% in order to ensure that appropriate attention is given to certain key aspects of running an effective home, ministry, business, etc.
If man and woman both truly place the Almighty first and serve each other the way Yah intended the remaining factors will follow.
Conclusion
Living life this way is a huge challenge for all of us.
I am firmly convinced that those who manage to conduct their live covenant's {marriages} in accordance with these criteria WILL find themselves blessed on the Day of Judgment.
If you turn these on their head and concentrate on the material things at the end of the list you WILL find that you have missed the mark seriously with Yah.
May Yah bless you and keep you and make His face to shine upon you and give you peace.
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